Being a Dominatrix with Mistress Justine Cross

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On this podcast episode, Mistress Justine Cross, joins us to share her experience as a professional dominatrix, tips on being a dominatrix, as well as what an experience in Dungeon East might be like.

What does it mean to be dominant over somebody?

I’m a professional as well as lifestyle dominatrix. Generally the term dominatrix is reserved for professional play. So, a DOM could be anyone who is exerting power and control over someone with consent.

What does it look like to be a dominatrix?

Being a dominatrix can look like many different kinds of things. I am very femme presenting. I like wearing leather, lingere, latex, things like that. I enjoy doing a lot of corporal punishment, which is anything where you’re hitting the body, bondage, tease and denial, and electro play. I tend to be very playful, but very strict in my demeanor. And I like doing a lot of long scenes and tease and denial kinds of scenes where I can draw out a full sensory experience. But that’s just my style of domination. There are many, many different forms and all of them are valid, if they are good and of course with consent.

Do you make a living out of being a dominatrix?

Yes, this is my full time business and career. Being a professional means that I am getting paid for it. I have a pretty robust business. Professional BDSM doesn’t really involve what most people think of as penis and vagina, skin to skin contact, hand to genital contact, mouth to genital contact. That’s not happening in my session unless you consider my heel on your cock, so, pain. I also do this in my personal life, so I’m a lifestyle dominant as well.

How did you get into this type of sex work?

When I was in high school, my friends gave me a book, I was a Teenage Dominatrix by Shana Kenny. And they thought I should do this. When I moved out to Los Angeles I started working at Los Angeles and Dungeon. Now I have a dungeon, Dungeon East. I used to have two dungeons, but I closed one during the pandemic.

What would a typical session with you look like? 

I wouldn’t really say there are any typical sessions because it really depends on the person and what they want because I’m tailoring that session specifically to you. There are certain things that I do just for safety, housekeeping tasks, such as I go over what you have written to me when you filled out my booking form, which is the only way to book with me. Oh, and you’ve already said, you showed me your vax card, and you put down a deposit. Those are things that always have to happen. And I will go over it again with you in the studio to make sure that we’re on the same page regarding things you want to do, things you don’t want to do, what your safe word is, etc. And I always ask if there is anything else that you want to tell me that maybe didn’t fit into any category, like medical concerns. I also make sure that everyone has eaten and is somewhat hydrated. I always give people water, but then after that, it just kind of depends on what the session is going to be. It may be roleplay where there are other characters in addition to me being Mistress Justine Cross, or it may be a straight corporal punishment session, or maybe we are going to relax and talk and you’re going to rub my feet while we chat. It really depends on what the person who is coming in wants. 

What is your dungeon space like? What type of equipment do you have that people can explore and play with? 

Dungeon East it’s pretty fully equipped. In terms of furniture there is a bondage bed cage, there are a couple of spanking horses, there’s a X called the St. Andrew’s Cross, and there are couches and chaises. There is also beautiful queen size four poster bed. It’s a regular bed with attachment points on it. In terms of toys and things, we have floggers and paddles, restraints like rope and cuffs, different kinds of nipple torture, masks, hoods, and blindfolds. Any insertables, like vibrators, we ask that you bring your own. And we also have a lot of safety and cleaning supplies throughout the space – sterile wipes, alcohol, condoms, tissues, paper towels, alcohol spray, hand sanitizer, and puppy pads.

What is the most common experience that people want when they come to you?

You know, I really can’t say that there’s anything common anymore, because I’m not really known for a particular thing. Some people are known for medical play, or heavy bondage, or full toilet or something like that. People come to see me if they’re new, if they’re wanting a couples session because I’m out there so much on mainstream media that people really connect with me and see me as a genuine and real person, so they feel very safe with me.  I’m pretty well known in Los Angeles and tend to attract a higher end client. So, people are coming in to see me and knowing that not all my sessions are very extreme or corporate, but you will have a very safe and beautiful experience. I think that’s more common of what people are asking for. But in terms of what I’m doing there, it really does run the range from doing light tickling sessions to heavy caning and everything in between, even vacation stuff, or taking me out to dinner and paying me for my time to have conversation there. It’s really all over the board.

What does a couples session look like? Are you teaching one of the partners some of the techniques or is it more so for both of them? 

It really depends on the couple. Sometimes I’m dominating one of the partners together with the other partner and that’s really fun. Sometimes it’s more instructional. It just depends. Sometimes I’m there to spice up the relationship. Whatever it is, we’re all on the same page. We all have to discuss what we want to do and what we don’t want to do. I really love working with couples. It’s nice to do this because I can offer them an hour or a few with me, and then they can have time alone in the space or do an overnight, or have a couple of hours just with the two of them to sort of reconnect and reestablish that couples energy.

To hear Mistress Justine talk more about being a dominatrix including her kink and sex negotiation worksheets, her boundaries, and exploring your BDSM side, listen to episode 160: Being a Dominatrix with Mistress Justine Cross, on the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast.

Find Mistress Justine Cross

Twitter as Justine Plays

Instagram as The Justine Cross

Website losangelesdominatrix.com

Dungeon East website dtladungeon.com

LISTEN TO THIS PODCAST EPISODE HERE.