On this solocast I talk about my evolution in self-acceptance, personal growth, the podcast, and how I continue to adapt to change. I share my personal reflections and thoughts on both myself and this podcast.
The evolution of my podcast
For those of you that have been listening to the podcast for a while, we are coming up on year three in June. This podcast was actually birthed more than three years ago, because I had been doing this work on Facebook in a private Facebook group.
Since the beginning, the podcast has evolved every single year and is getting more and more authentic to me and who I am, what I want to talk about, and my passions and desires. Which is what it’s all about. We’re here to talk about pleasure. If it doesn’t bring me pleasure, and if it’s not a fuck yes, it is a no. It’s a no. I literally have that on my phone screen to remind me. And so the podcast has evolved. It started out with a focus mostly on health awareness and sexual health. It started as a solo cast with me doing this all day every day and researching topics to share with you. Now, I have so much joy out of bringing other people on, asking other experts and talking with others. So, that is the first way that the podcast has evolved.
But what you’ll have noticed is that these conversations are getting better; they are more authentic conversations. You can feel the passion behind them. And you’ll notice that there’s been a switch to talking about sexuality, sexual health, sexual experiences, and how to have better sex. It is not just women’s health, but sexual health with a component of relationships because that is the area of life that I am in. I am bringing people on who I’m able to learn from, and we’re able to grow as women from these episodes. I’m hoping that you all are also able to enjoy the evolution of where this podcast is going, and these conversations.
The other change that you’ll notice with the podcast is we’re talking more about spirituality and incorporating the fun, sexy side. So, the mixture of sex and spirituality, meditation and conscious sex, worshiping, the tantric massage like pussy worship, cock worship, things like that. So, there are so many fun things in the work, and you will see that it’s just more aligned with what I like to talk about and who I am.
My personal evolution
I chose the word EVOLVING for me this year. I feel like this year is all about my continued growth and expansion and evolution into what is to come. Things aren’t stagnant for me.
Something I’ve incorporated into my routine this year is reading for pleasure. I hired a girlfriend of mine to mentor me and ultimately as my therapist to help me on my evolution. And as I’ve gone through this journey, I am uncovering more things that make me feel crunchy. And that makes me go huh. And one of those I’m gonna share with you guys because I think a lot of you will maybe relate to this or you all just like to know what’s going on in my life. So, I’m just going to share it. One thing that’s really come up for me in relationships over the past year is the fact that I have a lot of jealousy and a lot of insecurity in relationships. This continually comes up in every single relationship. It looks a little bit different in each one, but it keeps showing up. And it’s to the point where this is something that’s a me thing. This is not them. This is me. And I need to own that. And so at the beginning of the year, I hired a mentor to help support me and I’ve done and continue to do some deep diving into that. She’s also the one that challenged me to read more for pleasure rather than always reading to grow and reading for knowledge. And I’m fucking loving it. If you don’t already read for pleasure, go pick up a book!
Also, relationships are evolving. I am holding my boundaries. I am evolving as a woman to allow what I want into my life and not allow what I don’t want into my life. What that means is that as I’m looking for a relationship, I’m not allowing space for people who are not available to give me a relationship. There is no room for placeholders, there is no room for people who don’t know what they want.
A lot of things are changing, and I’m going with the flow of it and allowing it all to change. I’ve also had some really cool experiences this year that I’m not ready to share about yet. And that’s one thing that I’ve actually had a conversation about recently. That is, it’s hard having a podcast and talking about everything that I do but also keeping some secrecy and some privacy to my own personal life. I do share a lot with all of you, and I am very vulnerable about what’s happening in my life. However, there are some things that need to stay within me and my support system, and my relationship. Not everything in my relationship I want to be public. Not every relationship I want to be public. For those of you that saw recently, you know I went to Nashville, and I was not private about my adventure in Nashville. Most of you don’t know the backstory behind that trip, and maybe one day I will share, but for the most part I don’t keep a ton of secrecy. Yet, I’m learning what my boundary is around what I want to share and what I don’t want to share. I am honoring my own boundary.
With that said, it’s hard. It’s hard because I do want to share with you guys. But also, you know this podcast shit lasts for fucking ever, forever. It’s out in no man’s land forever. And I have to consider my future husband, who may choose to go back and listen to all of these episodes. They will really A) have to accept who the fuck I am, first of all, but B) there are some things where it’s like if my partner listens to this, and would cringe do I want to share it? And sometimes things are so fresh and so new that sharing them publicly is not safe or healthy for the relationship. So, I appreciate you all honoring my semi secret, not secret secret life.
The evolution of my business
My business as an intimacy coach and business coach is also evolving. I fucking love evolving. I love pivoting. That’s one of my favorite words. When I’m business coaching, we pivot. You get data and you pivot; you get more data and you pivot, and you pivot along the way.
And right now in business, I am in this season of travel. I was in a season of working. Now I’m in a business season of travel and leisure and relaxation and pleasure. What is evolving in business is that I want to create more community. I love groups of women that come together. So the She Society has been going on since February. We have a group of women that are meeting monthly for support, healing, educational resources, and tools. And we’re doing so much stuff there. These women are feeling the growth and I love being able to be a part of that.
You deserve to evolve. You deserve pleasure. You deserve everything that you want. If you need an affirmation, this is my current favorite affirmation: The more I accept who I am, and operate it as my authentic self, the more confidence I radiate. So, I’m gonna leave you with that. Go radiate confidence, bad bitches, and I love y’all. See you on the next episode.
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