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On this podcast episode Tenisha, the BJ Queen, talks to us about how to give a great BJ – from staying hydrated to controlling your gag reflex. So many great details are covered here!
What makes a good blowjob?
Number 1 avoiding contact with your teeth makes an amazing blowjob. Also, the amount of grip that you use, whether it be from your mouth or your hand. I think a good blowjob has a good handjob mixed in it too.
If I am giving a blowjob to someone for the first time I like to have them show me the amount of grip or pressure that they would like to have and it is also a way to heighten my senses too.
Communication is also important. You can also ask questions such as, what is it that you like? Or how do you like it? And then look for those cues that they’re enjoying it. Sometimes you hear that white noise and you know you’re doing what you need to do.
What else can you do with your hands that can enhance the experience for them as well?
I think playing with the balls is amazing. And then right underneath the balls is the taint. Get your thumb or finger in there and do a little rub. Sometimes that little rub sets it off.
What are some cues that you look for to see if your partner is enjoying it?
The first cue is sometimes the dirty talking, especially if you know your partner. Some guys get into dirty talking right off the bat. Some guys, it’s not a thing until you’ve been together a couple times. I definitely look for certain types of dirty talking. Then I will listen for moaning. Also look at what some of his hand motions are like how he’s caressing you, if he’s caressing your hair, or if he’s pulling your hair.
How do you make sure that your teeth are not involved?
Just wrapping your lips around your teeth to keep them out of the way.
Do you need to be able to deep throat to give a good blow job?
You do not have to deep throat in order to give a good blow job. However, I do pride myself on it which is why I got the nickname Gawk Gawk 3000.
For those of you who want to get all the way down, I have a technique that I highly suggest. That is laying on your back and letting him stand over you. It’s gonna get down a lot further then if you are either on your knees or laying over him and doing it. And then that gives him a little control especially if you don’t feel comfortable with your movements. That gives him the ability to control the movements and control the speed.
You can also sit on the ground or kneel in front of him and that puts you in a kind of submissive role if you enjoy that.
Have you ever thrown up on a penis?
I have not thrown up on a penis but it has come up and gone back down. I have never actually had it come out. I would probably be mortified. But there is no reason to be mortified in that situation because it happens. It happens a lot. Believe it or not. It could be a huge turn on for him knowing his penis made her throw up.
How about eye contact when you give a blowjob?
I like to have a little eye contact while I’m giving a blowjob because it’s a way to check in to see if he’s liking it. If you see his eyes roll back in the back of his head you know! I also love, love, love eye contact during the finisher, because it’s just like it.
Where did you learn to give good blowjobs?
I have an ex that I used to see 15 years ago. He definitely wanted to teach me and I was willing to learn. That’s where it started to be honest. And then, you know, you hear it said that when a woman is sucking dick, it’s the combination of men from her past. There are things that I have learned from men from my past that the guy today is receiving. It’s truly about just learning a pattern, because guys have a pattern. And if you learn that pattern, you could do some great damage, and not in a bad way. Good damage.
What are your thoughts on lube with blow jobs?
I don’t do lube with blowjobs. I do think the more spit the better. And from experience, sometimes that spit will set them off. Yeah, I mean, even when the spit is still in your mouth and it’s connecting to his dick, sometimes that’s a whole turn on right there.
But if you don’t produce a lot of spit, if that is very difficult for you, try hitting that dangly thing in the back, it will start running. There are times that I will purposely deep throat in those situations when I know that I need to produce some more spit. Then it’s a double win for him. He’s getting the spit and the deep. So he can’t beat it.
Spit or Swallow? What do you do?
I prefer to swallow. But, if it is a new guy, generally that is not a thing, because I don’t know how you eat. I don’t know how much water you’ve been drinking. I mean, if it’s a one night situation, I don’t fully know your hygiene, if we’re going to be 100% honest. So if it’s a first time thing, I gotta feel you out. I got to see how long I’ve known you before I swallow. Now there have been people that I’ve known for a long time. And then we just so happened to mess around and sure enough swallowed it.
When you’re about to give a blowjob how do you lead into actually starting it?
I start with some caressing. You know, if you’re laying there watching a movie, I’m gonna go ahead and put my hands right on down there and start playing with it. Just playing around a little bit.
There are so many juicy details in this episode. To hear Tenisha talk more about giving a great blowjob and all the details, including using products, smelling your own spit, and the important of staying hydrated, listen to episode 169: Gawk Gawk 3000 with Tenisha, on the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast.
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