On this podcast episode, Jenay, host of My Naked Mindset podcast, joins us to talk all about shower sex. We cover the do’s, the don’ts, and many tips to spice it up.
When you have shower sex, does it typically end in the shower or it’s more foreplay for you?
Most often it is foreplay. What happens sometimes is I’ll be in the shower and he’ll pop in randomly. Then we end up bringing it to the bedroom. It is really sexy to anticipate it starting again in the bedroom.
How can you make foreplay in the shower sexy and fun?
Start with the soap in the shower. Lathering up your partner is so intimate. You can be really gentle or really rough where maybe they’re grabbing your hair and tugging it. Just make it sexy and fun. I love making out in the shower. There’s something about the water hitting you and really being present in the moment. Being in the shower with someone is very intimate.
What are some ways you can set the scene for shower sex?
Using candlelight is a great start. You might try dimming the lights or having no lights and just the candlelight. You can also use bubbles in the bath and maybe rose petals. Each of these sets the scene and can make you feel so sexy.
What tips do you have for practicing safety with shower sex?
Showers are a slippery place to begin with and you and your partner are moving in all sorts of different directions, so it’s important to have a non-slip bath mat and make sure it’s secured with the suction cups on the shower floor. That’s probably my biggest tip. Also, utilize the handles on the sides of the bathtub if you have them. It’s a good anchor to hold on to so a fall can be avoided or at the very least minimized. You can also get suction cup handles and foot rests for the shower. Those are very handy and you can place them in the best position for you. Shower chairs are another great tool for fun and safety.
Do you have any recommended positions for sex in the shower?
Disclaimer: my absolute favorite position is good only for couples that are approximately at the same height. In this way, your hips and genital areas are lined up. I could have my back towards the bathtub wall and just have one foot up on the little ledge of the bathtub, and he could penetrate me while we were standing up. It was so sexy because you’re being so intimate, but then you can like make out and you can pull the hair and you can do all the fun things because you’re just right there. And then of course, doggy is a great one where you are bent over and holding on to the sides of the tub. You can play with his balls and he can grab your hair. Anything that makes it super fun and sexy for you both.
Some days I don’t want my hair to get wet, but that doesn’t mean I’m not open to having shower sex. Do you have any tips for avoiding the stream of water yet still being able to enjoy this?
I personally wear a hairnet thing. I seriously will have sex with that on. I really don’t care. I personally always love to start out with either me initiating and me giving him head or he kind of gets down and eats me out. You can try moving the shower head to the side so you’re not getting splashed on the face while you’re trying to give oral. Utilize that showerhead; put it on your back so it’s giving you a nice warm touch.
What are some good positions for when you’re lying on the shower floor?
I definitely love reverse cowgirl in the shower. I think it’s so much fun. Another one is where he’s laying on the floor and I’m squatting over him. I think that one is so sexy. And then maybe when your legs get a little tired you just kind of ride him.
Another position is where he’s on his knees over you and you have your legs up on his shoulders. With the showerhead spraying on his back.
I heard about a wheelbarrow position where you’re on your hands and then he’s holding up your legs. But obviously, be careful with that one. Just consider that if you can’t do the position outside of the shower, you probably shouldn’t try it in the shower.
What toys do you prefer in the shower or the bath?
I definitely love my G spot clit sucker. It is unbelievable. That’s my go to for the shower. And of course, I feel like most toys these days are waterproof, but obviously you want to ensure that they are waterproof. And then sometimes I’ll just use my hands because I think that can be such a really great way to explore.
Do you have any other tips you would like to share about shower sex?
Make sure you’re hydrated. And, if it gets really, really steamy in the shower, what I find is helpful is if I open the curtain a little bit and get some airflow. I have almost passed out in certain situations because it’s so so hot. Make sure you have some airflow. If it’s so hot in the room and you’ve been in there for a while, make sure you do not pass out because that would not be a fun situation.
To hear Jenay talk more about shower sex, listen to episode 161: Get Steamy in the Shower, on the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast.
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